The Blogging Conundrum

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I used to be grateful if I got a like or two on a post. Then one day I started regularly getting four or five and I felt like I had hit the big time. Now, if I don’t break thirty I feel like a failure! I am not sure I like that feeling…


62 thoughts on “The Blogging Conundrum

  1. What blows my mind is people who don’t respond to comments. WTF? Are you shitting me? I give the person one pass and after that I unfollow them. My big thrill comes from the quality of comments I get. I love that. And you know who you are.

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  2. I just gave you your 19th Like …lol.

    I think we all go through this thing. We slowly put our pinky toes in the blogging pool and then we start to reach out a bit more, and then gasp! people are reading our stuff and then we get that little orange glow in the top corner and we get excited and then we check stats over and over and over again throughout the day and then we start to *expect* certain things and then we get to that righteous indignation of “hey? That last post was AWESOME…where are the fans?” Or maybe that’s just me…ha ha.

    But I do agree with John there that I do enjoy blogs where the blogger responds to comments. I like the dialouge, and also the fact that the blogger appreciates the comments enough to respond. It’s a give and take in the blogging world, and we reap what we sow, to to speak.

    Anyway, it’s normal and at some point I started to see that the numbers no longer mattered…it was the interaction with others that really matters. But we all go through this…



    • I was just thinking when I saw your like, “Hey, maybe I will hit 30 on this one after all!” And thank you for your long comment! This whole thing has become a lot more absorbing than I ever thought it would and I have gotten to “meet” and “sort of spy on” some really great people. In the end, though, it just feels weird to really care about something like “likes” of all things! 🙂


  3. We get complacent with what is the norm for ourselves. In the beginning we are excited with our very first post. Clicking publish the first time is thrilling but at the same time daunting. Do we have the tags right? Update. Done. Sit back. Give yourself a pat on the back. Then comes the very first like. Yippee. Then our expectations shift. The first will never be repeated. The first reader from Spain! Yay. The first comment! OMG. We get blasé so quickly. We are so greedy for “moreness.” Yeah. I made that word up. Gimme gimme….:) 22nd like and counting….


  4. I have to say I only press like if something really connected with me or that I actually liked it…. But at least you know I am genuine if I liked it. I actually don’t have an issue with the Blogger’s mentality. I have a blogging site that has no followers and I still write there, I do it for me, but then I have been told I am unusual when it comes to social media!!


    • +1 I don’t like posts which does not resonate or I don’t find useful 🙂 And I have 20 posts “private” and can’t seem to feel like sharing them.. maybe one day.. for now I love reading other people’s experience 🙂


      • Soooo…. This post didn’t connect or resonate with you since you didn’t like it? 😛 I am probably a bit freer with my likes than most people. If it was well written, even if I don’t agree with it, or heck, if I read it and was not viscerally and morally opposed to the content, I will probably hit like. I have a tendency to comment on things that really struck a chord with me. Someday, doctorgeekette, I hope you make some of those posts public! I would be fascinated to read them.


      • It didn’t resonate because it actually freaks me out to see that some people go on my blog xD
        I feel like in a way, maintaining a blog, sharing snippet of our lives – on top of putting us in a vulnerable position – is a bit like loosing a piece of oneself. Sharing personal things make them fair game for the outside world. It attracts a level of judgement, comments which are sometimes far from nice and even sometimes a sense of entitlement from the reader coupled with the (false) idea that the reader knows the blogger or is part of their life.
        I just need to tread carefully. My wish for you is that the 50+ likes become the norm and your blog grows from strength to strength 😉


  5. It is a humorous phenomenon, isn’t it? I have hundreds of posts that literally have never had a view, back when I wrote simply to express anywhere, somewhere, thoughts I had after being widowed. Now my platform has mutated into a trial space for honing my writing craft. I watch to see what resonates, what doesn’t, as a measure of how to improve the technical skill of what I do in my private writing for future publication. Sometimes what I write gets very little feedback, but it is personal expression that I need. It is those things that I write related to craft that I really watch.

    Comments are great, because I search to know ‘why’ they liked it – Did it speak to them? Did it make them think? Did it help them? Did it change them in some way? Alter perspective?

    But I also work full-time and cannot always respond right away, which I hope people understand 🙂


  6. It changes over time — sometimes you pay attention to stats. Sometimes, you don’t. Have you been Freshly Pressed yet? (Several of your posts should have). It really messes up your mind because it is a lovely pat on the back and then you get bunches of new likes, follows, comments. But they all go away.

    I write for myself, for the blogging buddies I have made. It’s nice to be liked; it’s better to be read!


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