Bah Humbug?

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As I am pulling out the decorations for yet another year, I had to stop and write a quick post, even though I said I wouldn’t.

Generally, I hate that I am supposed to be full of Christmas joy for four whole damn weeks. How? How can I possibly do that?!??! Each year it gets harder and harder to conjure up the proverbial Christmas spirit. I resent it all. Why is that? It is a puzzle that has gotten me thinking of late.

My best Christmas ever was as a kid when my father had been out of work for a year. No one wanted to employ an angry, crippled polio victim so my mother had been preparing us for the fact that Santa was not going to be coming for us. In fact, we were looking like we were not going to be eating much longer and would soon lose our house.

Then, on Christmas Eve, we arrived home to find a giant cloth bag on our front porch.

From Santa.

In it were the most glorious things!

I remember that we all dug through that bag frantically like wild animals, exclaiming over each new treasure, but the only item that I actually remember specifically was a Barbie. A Barbie in a yellow dress. I had never, ever had a Barbie. Each year I had asked for a Barbie. All of the other girls at school had Barbies, tons of them, and yet each year my pleas had fallen on deaf ears.

Disappointment after disappointment.

Until that one year.

I never got what I asked for any year after that until I was grown and had the means to buy my own gifts, but it didn’t matter because for that one year Santa had come through for me.

Santa was real, after all.

Maybe I have been too self absorbed at Christmas of late? Maybe that is my problem? I am looking at Christmas as if it owes ME something when actually I owe it to Santa to come through for someone else? Soooo….

Here’s to a happier holiday for me, you, and everyone!

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78 thoughts on “Bah Humbug?

  1. Happy holidays to you too! But, goodness, this year I have to get through four birthdays, two dental appointments, and a shift of house, before I can even think of Christmas!

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  2. What an awesome personal story. I remember a time when one gift was expected and cherished. Today it seems to be about multiple gifts, in increasing dollar values. Many of them are forgotten before bedtime Christmas Day.

    I had a great uncle who was a polio victim. He always worked, but most of it involved driving something. He still managed to get every child in the family something, even if he had to make it himself.

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  3. This is a wonderful Christmas story that is real. I have gotten jaded about the commercialism and can’t afford to get carried away with buy, buy, buying. We celebrate Hanukkah as well. My husband did not celebrate Christmas growing up. When you don’t celebrate it you feel a bit like an outsider looking in. But I am much more relaxed about Christmas now I do not feel I need to get caught up in the frenzy. It is harder when you have kids because they want things and we want to give to them. Many people do not have nice Christmases. So it is good to keep them in mind and give to organizations like Toys for Tots. They collect new toys for needy kids to make sure they get something for Christmas.

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    • Or better yet, forgo the wasted money spent on administration and go grass roots, leaving Santa bags for those you know that are in need. My parents never would have asked anyone for help, much less gone to an organization. Someone saw and acted on their own. 🙂

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      • Well with Toys for Tots you do not give money. They leave bins in various stores and people are supposed to deposit an unwrapped new toy. So while your shopping for your family you might just buy an extra toy for the bin. Then Toys for Tots distributes the toys to needy kids. But yes if you know of people who need things it is very nice to go drop off a Santa bag. Any way the things get to the people are good.

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  4. Truth be told I don’t like Christmas at all, but I do like to see the smile on my Hubby’s face when he opens his gift. I wish it were less commercial and self absorbed. I hope that you do enjoy your time off?

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  5. Your childhood story is what Christmas is truly all about. If only you could somehow transport that magic into today’s world to override the grabby greediness that is so prevalent today. I got all teary eyed reading this. Yes I can imagine your joy at finding the Barbie because I like you, never had one. I wish more people would get into the right spirit of Christmas and be secret Santa Clauses. I wish! Love, Amy

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  6. Great post! For me, the true magic of Christmas is the rediscovery that the things we already have are the greatest gifts of all…our world, our homes, and the love of our family and friends. Everything else is just icing on the cake! 🙂

    Best wishes to you and yours for a healthy and happy Holiday Season!

    Stargazer

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  7. Christmas, and the entire holiday season is/can be such a conflicted time for so many. There’s the religious side, the commercial/materialist side, the bringing-up-family-issues side, the fact that it all starts earlier each year side, the why are we doing this all over again side, the what are we teaching our kids side…I shuffle back and forth trying to decide just where I fit on the line every year.

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  8. I sympathize! Last Christmas I was the Grinch and Scrooge all rolled into one–perhaps I had just gotten married a couple of months before and we got so many gifts (second marriage–did not need anything!). This year I am much more into the spirit and plan to decorate tomorrow. Find your joy in the season. That one year it found you!! And by the way, thank you for being the first person to LIKE my posts almost every time. I appreciate it and that brings me joy 🙂

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  9. How bizzare. I remember my mother telling the exact same happened to her when she was a little girl. And she never found out who brought the gifts. The only thing different fron your story was that while my mother and her family were at midnight mass someone had set the table and laid out a whole christmas dinner.

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  10. In Jimmy Stewart’s voice: “That’s right!” 🙂 I was just having a discussion with my daughter tonight. She ‘wants’ to give her kids SO much more. I keep telling her that 1) they can’t count their presents yet 2)she has the ability to make Christmas special with her making it exciting and full of traditions for just them.

    Good for you. 🙂

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    • My kids have no sense of appreciation for what they have received. The only way to truly understand a blessing is to do without. Definitely going to ve scaling back on the “stuff” this year. $40 for a toy that causes 90 seconds of joy is just not woth it…

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      • Excellent point. My husband and I are not buying each other gifts at all this year. We’ve decided to ‘do’ things with the family and friends. Let the time and experience of the holiday be stress free and filled with fun. Not stuff.

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  11. The answer to your title question, “Bah Humbug?” is no. Because you shared this beautiful gift of a Christmas story. The image of a happy wide eyed girl (who grows up to be a doctor) holding her one and only Barbie in a yellow dress, that came from a mysterious big bag, will stay with me for a long time. Forever I hope. Personally, I love singing Christmas songs and looking at the lights.

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  12. Santa is real….in spirit, and this story makes me want to buy you lots of Barbies…. My only advice is “make it your own”, you have your own family now, your kids are little…make new happy traditions. I know sometimes the Pollyanna in me is out of control but I can’t help myself…Zia

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  13. Little story. I’ll try to keep it short. It was four Christmases ago. I had left my abusive (now ex) husband in August with my kids, but with only $500 to my name. I started working in October, but we were still living in my sister’s remodeled basement. I was going to weekly meeting for victims turning survivors and one night they passed out a form that would become an angle at a local boutique.
    I put down my name and my kids names and ages, and then I looked around the room. So many women’s situations were so much worse than mine. I had my family. I didn’t have to worry about the roof over our head. I had help when I had interviews. I had no things, but I had everything I needed. I put the form in the trash can on my way out that night. I forgot all about it.
    Until Dec. 23 when I got a phone call telling me my Christmas Tree Angle gifts were ready for pick-up. But I didn’t fill out the form. Well there’s a whole bag here with your name on it. Are you sure it’s not another Melanie? You’re the only Melanie. There were so many gifts I had enough to share with my niece, my whole family. Santa? Yeah, he’s real.

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  14. I spent last Christmas day in the ER with my disabled daughter. Little did I expect to meet the spirit of Christmas there, but I did….the admitting team who greeted us with “Merry Christmas!”, the triage nurse who told my daughter that she was happy to get to take care of her on Christmas Day, the IV nurse with candy cane earrings who miraculously got the IV in with just one stick, the ER gaily festooned with garland and a Charlie Brown tree, the attending doc wearing a Santa hat who announced at the end of the day he was going home to open presents with his kids…..humbling, really.

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  16. My family’s Christmas holidays are almost always delightful, which is really saying something considering the sheer number of crazy relatives I have. My family doesn’t take the rules of Christmas very seriously. I wonder if sentences one and two are connected. 😉

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  17. I usually feel the same way at Christmas. I love the giving part but I always resent that there isn’t as much giving to me. I’m also trying to turn over a new leaf this year

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    • I hate giving gifts for the most part, unless it is a gift intended for a kid or someone in need. I know I am not really grateful for what I receive (in the back of my mind I am always thinking that I could just buy that for myself) so I figure most everyone else probably isn’t either. Then I start to feel guilty about how I asssume everyone else is just not grateful and then I get angry with myself because it really shouldn’t matter if someone is grateful or not and THEN I get disgusted with myself for overthinking everything. Gah!

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      • Hahaha! Its a vicious cycle, isn’t it!? I just feel like I wish everyone else loved giving gifts as much as I do. Not necessarily because I want to get gifts, but because I truly believe that it is a season for giving and people forget that. But then again, I am a little abnormal in how much I LOVE giving gifts to people!

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  18. Oh, what a sweet story! I bet your parents were beyond excited when they saw what Santa had done for you. 🙂 Thank you for sharing! (I’m feeling especially Grinchy myself as of late, and this helped to cheer me up a bit.) 🙂

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  19. What an amazing story! 🙂
    I feel the same as you regarding the ‘bah humbug’ spirit.
    I think all the commercialism has sucked out just about all of the original intentions and left me feeling a bit jaded… Although Christmas is not a national holiday in Japan, you see the commercialism everywhere, like having too much sugar put into everything. In my humble opinion, we can do random acts of kindness and show goodwill towards others any time of year, and not just on the winter holidays…
    As always, thank you for sharing!
    Best,
    Takami

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  20. I guess as adults the whole Christmas spirit part of the season slowly disappears. Every year since I’ve had kids I’ve tried to recapture the spirit but reality keeps getting in the way. Then I feel a bit guilty on the 26th! I have all the decorations put up and presents under the tree, but I know I lost the feeling inside several years ago. I’m going to try again really hard this year to get into it, though…❄❄ Merry Christmas!!❄☃

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