“Doc, let me give you a tip. When you are talking to them about it, don’t sound upset.”
“Don’t sound upset.”
“Upset? When did I sound upset?”
“The other day when you were talking about the way they were handling documents.”
“I WAS upset. They keep doing that no matter how many times I talk to them without sounding upset. THEY ARE JUST NOT LISTENING. I don’t do that all the time, do I?”
“I’m not keeping count…”
“Ok, but I wasn’t yelling or making accusations or throwing things or cussing. I let them see a glimpse of how crazy this makes me feel.”
So I have been thinking, what is wrong with showing emotion? Should we not show anything but positive emotion? Should we cocoon ourselves in a fake PolyAnna land where we all go skipping along singing about the birds and the trees? Sterilize the world of all negativity?
I have been telling my kids that anger is not the problem, it is what you do with it that matters. Is that wrong? Should I teach them to supress it or how to use it constructively and respectfully?
I just don’t know anymore….