In truth, it has helped to stabilize the office, something much needed after the hellacious turmoil of the past 12 months.
Let’s face it. Being a woman in power is a tenuous thing. No one likes to take orders from a woman. Not really. If I am honest with myself, I don’t like it. You probably don’t like it, either.
And yet, as a woman I resent that I have to hide behind a man.
Some may say that the problem is with me. Is it? Maybe. I cannot figure out what to do differently, though. I work hard to be respectful yet firm and at the same time encouraging and helpful. No cussing people out or throwing things, as I have said before in other posts. Smile. Ask about family, kids. Bring baked goods.
Bottom line? It always came down to being told that I (and the other female physicians) should not directly interact with the staff, that I should let my office manager do that but honestly my female office managers (ten years worth) never fared any better than I did when it came to employee relations. The staff hated them, too, which helped me feel better about me but did not help solve the problems of the clinic or improve patient care.
So now we have a man and the griping and complaining… and dare I say bitching… has calmed down. I saw this happen once before when we had a male office manager for a year.
This has helped my own frame of mind tremendously. I cannot tell you how disruptive all of the disharmony can be, spilling into all other aspects of my life.
Still, I am jealous, and frankly more than a little embarrassed, that he can do it when I and other women cannot. There IS something different, something subtle, in how we deal with issues or perhaps more likely in how people respond to us. This is why the rates of depression are so much higher in female supervisors.
Perhaps I am a sell out for not fighting harder, for not insisting that a woman hold this position? But then maybe it is OK to work as a team, drawing on each other’s strengths and minimizing our weaknesses. Maybe it doesn’t have to be a male or a female superiority thing? We are different and that is OK.
For now the patients need this calm. So do I. I am glad he is here, helping us out.
I am interested to hear your thoughts. I realize this is a controversial subject so please be respectful!