What makes you happy?
Are you happy? Not just *should* be happy. ARE you happy?
A study was published this week looking at sex and happiness. Turns out, you only need sex once a week to be happy. More sex? Doesn’t make you happier. This held up for men, women, old, young… Everyone across the board. But here is the real kicker: you have to be in a romantic relationship to have the benefit. The length of the relationship did not change the results, so being married for fifty years or dating for six months made no difference in the findings.
For single people? There was no relationship between sex and happiness. So if you are single, don’t even bother from a happiness standpoint. Which is actually an interesting observation. Perhaps it is not sex we are after so much as the relationship.
Every day at the clinic I find myself talking to someone about sex and libido. There is this myth that has been perpetuated that healthy relationships require sex 3-4 times a week. More is better. I have tried to fight this, preaching that like so many other things in life, quality rather than quantity is the key to sex. Without data to support what I am saying, though, I consistantly get looks of disbelief in return.
But just once a week?
That surprised even me.
Is sex a tool for happiness, though? Is that how we should think about it? Is it sex that creates happiness by maintaining intimacy or is that happiness more a symptom of the things in place in a relationship that allow sex to happen at least once a week?