Salvation is Near!

There is nothing like prying your kids off of each other for the fifteenth time before 10AM to make you question your parenting skills. 

And your sanity.

We are on day five of me at home with my kids. I don’t have anyone reliable to watch them when they are out of school for the holidays (there is entirely too much time off of school nowadays if you ask me πŸ˜‰) so their father and I split the time. Currently, it is my turn. Tomorrow I get to go back to work for a few days.

Yippie! (You didn’t hear me say that…)

Stay at home moms, I don’t know how you do it day after day, week after week, month after month. Honestly, I am not as strong as you are. I am beginning to think I look pretty sexy in sweats. That’s right. Not to mention the fact that all of the cookies I have baked have snuck off to hide somewhere… I couldn’t possibly have eaten all of them. AND I am talking to rising bread dough as an equal. 

All of this has convinced me that I am a much better parent in smaller doses. I had suspected this, but in the past my kids still napped. 

Now they don’t. 

So. 

I say all of this to say that if you hang with your kids all day every day and still like them and yourself, you have my respect. I send you a virtual fist bump of solidarity. 

Meanwhile, I am going to quietly sneak off to pack my work bag for tomorrow morning so as not to draw the attention of the angry hoards demanding that I fold yet another origami frog.

Woohoo! (You didn’t hear me say that…)

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111 thoughts on “Salvation is Near!

  1. When most women stayed home, they threw us out of the house for most of the day. There was a good reason for that.

    I stayed at home for 8 years. And I loved it, most of the time. Much of the time. OK, some of the time. When I went back to work I realized that I am a much better mother when I do it part-time.

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  2. I’m a stay-at-home-mum and sometimes I’m just not that strong. I have a cold today and I’m feeling low. My two-year old has followed me around the house demanding attention. After the 50th ‘mamma’ I may have lost it with some pastry and didn’t realise she was watching. She promptly copied with her play kitchen rolling pin and I spent the next twenty minutes trying to convince her it was not a hammer. You’ve gotta see the funny side really.

    Seriously though, if we didn’t loose it occasionaly we wouldn’t be human and I never ever loose it at her. The way I get through? I have my writing and storytelling and they give me a creative outlet. I also look at the lovley things we’ve done today like read stories on the sofa and make cotton wool snowmen.

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  3. Crafts – crayons, paints, and washable markers, and craft paper
    at the kitchen table. And if anyone starts to fight, they lose the
    privileges of all the fun.
    I did this with my oldest 3 when one came home from the hospital
    after pneumonia. I wish I could send you the pic of the happy
    campers all around the kitchen table doing their thing!
    The sickie got an artists apron, but she was willing to share,
    she wanted company!!

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  4. I stayed home with our children when they were little and it was one of the hardest jobs (if one can call it a job) that I’ve ever done. They are all grown up now and they share so much of my thinking and now I know why. They must have listened to me at some point.
    Leslie

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  5. I remember trying to find the perfect babysitter for our two (ages 3 & almost 1) when I began teaching school. I first contracted with a girl who was a nursing student doing evening classes–perfect for me because I would be home evenings. I felt comfortable just imagining she could be on top of medical emergencies. Well, I found out from the neighbor that she locked the children in the house while she canvassed the neighborhood selling candy and cookies.

    That very evening, my husband and I went to secure a “grandmother” for the job. She rocked and tatted while my eldest trashed the house every day. She was safer for the kids than the girl had been, but left me with tons of work to do every evening–a sink full of dishes, messy floors, not so nice surprises like my baby girl with shaved head. Her elder had clipped her bald with cuticle scissors while she sat stone still.

    We endured for two years.

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  6. This is why there are stories about Santa only visiting the GOOD children. Saw a funny internet meme yesterday that read, “I always wrap up a couple of empty boxes to place under the tree. When the children are bad, I grab one and throw it in the fireplace.”

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  7. Mine are on holidays til beginning of February . Although they are 13,18,20 it’s still mum my speakers don’t work..mum this and that ..yesterday told my son to go tell his dad. My head was starting to hurt.
    I was a stay at home mum. Look how I turned out? a bit crazy ..for years I’d run at the sound of a crying baby ..even if that baby was in my favourite store I’d still walk out ..

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  8. You have to do what works best for you. There’s no ideal. I, for one, was thrilled when my mother went back to work full time. And she was happier too. Since I worked at home, my kids learned to give me space at an early age. Oh and playdates. We couldn’t have made it without them. (K)

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  9. Mine are all adults now. I was a stay at home mum and reading these comments I soooo miss it all. But would I want to do it again … probably not. I think it is sensible today for mums to work – even if its just a few hours a week at a grocery store because it doesn’t do kids any harm at all to know you have a life besides them and their needs.

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  10. I was a working mom and hated myself for not being present for her before and shortly after school. I wanted to be there for here. I know I could not have done it day-in, day-out. I had to work so we could eat and have a roof over our heads. I’m glad I was able to work. πŸ˜€ I know what you mean.

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  11. This post has managed to erase years of built up mommy guilt.

    I looked forward to going to work to talk to adults about grown-up things. I looked forward to the quiet of my office where I might be uninterrupted for hours.

    I loved my boys, but you said it so well – “I am a much better parent in smaller doses”

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  12. I worked while my children were young. Now, I’m home 4-5 days per week with 13 month-old grandson. I love him immensely, but there are days that I feel like I’m becoming brain dead. My husband and I went to a holiday party this past weekend and I felt very inadequate in the conversation department. I did lots of listening and head nodding. I totally understand where you’re coming from. Happy holidays!

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  13. I think balance is the thing. Like, if you’re not happy, then they’re not happy. So whether you’re unhappy for being home too much or working too much, that’s not good for anyone. Probably really good to split it up between you.
    I’m glad I was home all the time when they were younger, and I’m glad I work part-time now that they’re older.
    Even when I stayed home with four, our parents, other mommies, and the local preschool really helped me out. It’s good to have days where you take care of yourself. That could range from going to the dentist to having a bath and sleeping all day, but at least it wasn’t about kids. When they were home all summer, or holiday breaks, well, that’s why the first day back to school meant I drank mimosas while the guy cleaned my carpet πŸ˜‰ So you know, YEAH, they’ll make you cray! But then, at times your job can make you cray too!

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  14. Enjoyed laughing at this post and your honesty! Being a Mom is definitely the hardest job there is, no doubt!
    I stayed at home when they were little and YUP there were days I thought I was losing my mind. I had 2 and from the time my youngest was 3 and my oldest 5 I watched a friend’s 4 kids between he ages of 3months and 5.
    My hubby would come home from work somedays and walk in the door to welcome the chaos of 6 little ones running around and he would be so tempted to walk back out the door sometimes. LOL!
    I will say though that I am very glad I did it. The memories the kids talk about make me feel so good. They still are great friends with these kids. Like a 2nd family. Now the ages range from 9 to 17 between my kids and my friend’s. And what is one memory they all share. ” Remember when you would give us bananas so we could jump around acting like monkeys!”
    Have a very Merry Christmas! Enjoy work tomorrow! πŸ™‚ Treat yourself to something nice!

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    • Bananas and monkeys. How fun is that? The crazy things that stick in kids’ minds. πŸ™‚ And helping out with your friend’s kids, you are a saint! I had a friend help me with mine when they were babies. It made all of the difference in the world, knowing I could trust that they would be loved and cared for when I was not around. I could not have done it otherwise. πŸ™‚

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  15. Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. You are too funny! I wish I had spent more time at home when my boys were little, but on the days when I was home, I tended to crave more “me” (alone) time. Raising kids is hard work!

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  16. My sister told my other sister that she was “privileged” as a stay at home mother over Thanksgiving. That didn’t go over too well. When the men agreed that they’d kill themselves before agreeing to be stay at home dads the first sister lost her mind. “Give me a break–I’d love to sit around with my daughter all day.”

    Everyone laughed at her and she left. For most parents the privilege of having one parent stay home comes with a lot of sacrifice (years of God awful and cheap clothes to start with). It’s definitely the brain-numbness that makes being home difficult. You can only drown out so much bickering, begging and electronic noise when kids are around–or how about the “playing the piano” when adults are trying to talk? πŸ™‚

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    • There are so many grass is greener thoughts one can have, leaving us full of jealousy and resentment. I used to think I would be able to entertain myself while my kids did their own thing all day but yeah, not all rainbows and sunshine. I actually get more steps in when I am at home than I do when I am at work! I feel my time with my kids is much more fulfilling when we have breaks from each other. It is easy to imagine that those fulfilling times would be 24/7 if given the opportunity but that is just not the reality. Sometimes you have to experience the other side to appropriately appreciate where you are. πŸ™‚

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  17. I remember my own mom (a stay-at-home mother) say, “Sometimes you almost hate your kids.” I was a teenager (an angel, of course) and thought she was a witch for saying that. Once I had my own kids, I understood. You love them every single day, with all your heart, but there are times you just want to get away from them.

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  18. Oh, do I ever feel your…um…pain. Hard to say that out loud for us mothers, but it’s true for some of us. I only had one child and that was pushing it for me. I was pregnant with twins and I miscarried. While others around me gave me their condolences, I tried hard to react with the appropriate level of solemnity. Inside, however, I was relieved. Twins plus a toddler? Me? It would not have ended well for someone!

    Have a lovely day at work!! πŸ™‚

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  19. My bride is a stay-at-home but in 2017 she needs to find a job. These kids are getting expensive. She’s got the deep blue blues about the whole thing. She doesn’t want to work. She wants to volunteer and such. I’m trying to be sympathetic but, jeeze, she had a 15-year reprieve from working! That’s pretty good.

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  20. Mine are seventeen and nineteen and I’ve spent tonight making three cheesecakes, one for us, two for my daughter’s work. Yeah, ready to pack it in, sigh. I worked up until my oldest was twelve and then I’ve been home, disabled, ever since. There are many days I’d rather eat socks then get out of bed, lol. But, surprisingly, somewhere along the way they turn into pretty decent adults. Enjoy your escape!!

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  21. You will remember these days with the kids with great joy when you are older and they have flown the nest – they grow up so fast, and during the times I was at home with them and they were at each other’s throats and mine, I remember wishing they were grown. WRONG! I’d give anything for another day with them when they were little. And I’m with you – hats off to women who choose to stay home with their children and crowns to the mothers that home school. Do balance work and home life but treasure the times with the children. Origami frogs?

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    • I had a patient once say, “You spend all that time wishing for them to learn to walk and talk and when they do, all you want is for them to sit down and be quiet!” My kids love origami for some reason. There are instructions on YouTube for just about anything!

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  22. No judgment here, my friend! I shed one silent tear when I realized our Christmas break had been cut in half. I was really looking forward to some quiet time — two weeks of it, but I was mistaken. I love the kids in my school — all 1500 of them, but this educator needs a break. Happy holidays!

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  23. Wow! yes I know the feeling, My boys are eight at times they time they are playing video games and are usually very quiet. Sometimes they just cuddle and listen to me read and tell them crazy stories. The only part I really dread is when I have to go to the store or run errands, they always want something, and If I have a few places to go they get very annoying. ” Mom can we go home now? I’m hungry. One more stop. Lol…

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  24. You aren’t alone in your thinking. I was the same way when my kids were growing up. Work was like a vacation in comparison to being home with them. Don’t get me wrong I love my (thank heavens adult children) but wow they totally drained me when I was young. Stay at home parenting is difficult and I surely wasn’t cut out for it.

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  25. Grandeur et servitude militaire… A french classic. Not too sure how to translate that, something about “grandeur” and “slavery”. Fortunately as I come to the bottom of my in-box, by now, you are back to full-time work. Pffff. (As we came back early January, the day care facility was still on holiday, so we took our share of keeping Grandbaby while his overworked parents set out to their respective hospital to save patients. Fun. But he doesn’t walk yet. I wonder how we will fare when he starts running! OMG. (Any clues?) πŸ™‚

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