“Doc, I just want her to have sex with me. I come home after working hard and I want to make love to my wife but she’s not interested.”
I went into my usual discussion about wooing and foreplay and questions about their relationship but I was getting nowhere fast. It always feels incredibly silly for me to be giving anyone marriage advice, as if I have everything figured out, but here I was. Again.
“Wait. Don’t you work out of town all week?”
He shrugged. “Yeah. So?”
“Look, you and she have four kids under the age of eight and five out of seven days out of any given week she is a single parent also working a full time job. You come home Friday night and want to get busy when she is exhausted and really just wants to finally get some good sleep? That is not math that is going to add up.”
“Can’t you just give her a pill?”
“Then can you tell her she needs to lose some weight? Start exercising?”
I looked over at her, sitting silently in the corner. She was not obese. She sure did tired. She rolled her eyes.
“Tell you what, here is the name and contact info for a good marriage counselor…”