I’ve been thinking about this question since my turn with jury duty. There are tons of things that would make me call the police. Theft, causing physical harm to a person or property, cyber bullying, extortion, etc. There are some gray areas, however.
For instance, let’s take a woman who is minding her own business loading groceries into the back of her SUV. A man drives up slowly in the store parking lot and exposes himself to her, his penis waving about in all of its erect “glory”.* What makes her say, “You know what? I’m going to call 911 and report you, you sorry bastard!”
To be honest with myself and all of you, I would not be the woman dialing 911. I’d be shocked and disgusted to be sure, but calling the police? No. Not for this.
Shouldn’t I be reporting the guy to keep him from doing this to other women? Isn’t it my civic duty to report it, to protect the public?
Maybe I am just desensitized from seeing men’s penises every day as part of my job, some of them even erect (nothing funny about that, it is involuntary) that it does not offend me as it should? Maybe I just don’t want to waste more of my time on him. Filing a police report, potentially testifying in court… those things take time. A lot of time. Then there is the added aggravation of having defense counsel work to convince the jury that out of either malice or ignorance I must not have seen what I know I saw… worse, if the jury decided he was not guilty.
So here I am, an educated woman telling you that I would make the conscious decision to not call the police about a man showing off his penis to me in public and I have to be honest with you that after serving as a juror, I think I would be even less likely to do it.
Call me a coward.
What prompts another woman make the report, though? What are your thoughts? Would you call 911 if you were the woman? Why or why not? What if you were a man and witnessed this being done to someone else? What if it was done to you? Would you do something different if a friend was with you? What if there were kids around?
*In case you are wondering, this was not the case I served on as a juror.